Love Him or Hate Him? Here Are the 12 Best Gifts for the Ex Boyfriend You Want to Win Back or Cut Off

It is not the same to end a short six month relationship with a boy you were just getting to know, than a relationship that has lasted years. In the first scenario, do not get him a gift, it can be strongly misinterpreted. If you are trying to win him back, after such a short relationship, he may think you are trying to buy him back with a gift. Or if a gift suddenly appears from you, without months or weeks of contact, that will also make him feel uncomfortable. The best way to show a ex-partner after a short relationship that you are moving on, but are still considerate, is a well thought card, with no romantic connotations. This way you avoid being rude or unthoughtful, but are also clear that you are moving on. In a longer relationship, things change.

There is no denying that you shared a special day for many years, and accepting this fact is helpful in terms of healing. It is healthy to maintain a decent, respectful relationship with the person you have shared so many special days with. Furthermore, if you have children, giving a gift to your ex can show them important values about forgiving, strength and respect. Also, it gives you an excuse to give him a gift and say it is from the children. He will know it was you who put the thought behind the gift and will appreciate the gesture. These little things will also help you manage co-parenting a lot easier, and will show you want things to go well.

Having good intentions behind a gift can’t always be enough. Gifts and intentions are open to interpretation and timing is everything. If his birthday is soon after your break up, then regardless of how good the gift is, or how much you want to get back with him, the wound is too fresh and it will not be received well. Just try and put yourself in his shoes and think about how you would feel getting a gift from him. It is also important to consider how you are going to approach the situation. Whatever the situation, do not approach it via a text message!

Set your intentions early, and only once! Asking time and time again is a sign of desperation, and that is not an image you want to give. Try to understand first what position you find yourself in, are you happy with the situation? The first thing you need before being able to win him back is to be comfortable with yourself, understanding your strengths and the positives of your life, old relationship and then using this with confidence to win him back. If you left it on friendly terms, then a little joke gift can go appreciated to help him in the future or just a good inside joke. But be careful with these as they are the ones that can mostly lead to misinterpretation. Be sure of where you stand with you ex-boyfriend before you try being funny. One last thing, revenge shows him you still think about him.

If you want to get back together with him, consider the occasion, the time since the break up and the time you guys spent together. Here are some ideas that will help you get back with him, or at least closer to it and each one is suitable for different periods of the break up.

A coffee mug is a good little gift if the break up still has the risk of being fresh in his mind. Their practicality can sometime over power the thought of who gave the mug. For this reason, personalised mugs are not a good idea, the photo will remind him too much. However, a Garfield Purple Mug is a good place to start for Rs.399. The quote ‘Smile it confuses people’ is written over a Garfield cartoon. The idea behind this mug is to not go over the top with love, you want to show him you think of him and want him back, but you don’t want to come across desperate, so a funny mug that will make him smile is the best choice!

Get your cook book out for this one! You should know his favourite type of cake, pastry or sweet, and they work for every occasion. So a good way to show thoughtfulness without being excessively clingy is a homemade baked good. Bake him his favourite cake, it is something he can share with his family and friends, or you, and it can be given as a friendly gesture, thus reducing the possibility of misinterpretation. How expensive or cheap, simple or creative you go is up to you, but you can make him the main focus of this gift without the backlash of other possible gifts.

Remember all those times you two laughed and enjoyed each other’s company? Then so does he. This gift is for that stage in the break up where you are both over it enough to look back at the past with fondness, so be very precautious with timing. Too soon and this can turn a good get back together idea into a never wanting to hear from you again mistake. This gift is also pretty inexpensive, the cost of printing all those adorable couple photos or photos of him having a good time during something you did together, a glass frame without borders is an ideal way to collage all your photos behind and wall ready. Or a Magic Gift frame for Rs.210 from flipkart.com, add your own touch to it.

Days out can be a great way to rekindle the lost spark between you two. And it can be as expensive, or inexpensive as you can afford, want to spend. Go for a picnic to your favourite secret spot! Or take him Go Karting for Rs.1,550 in Gurgaon (or if you have a local go karting place, go there). This package allows him to have an adrenaline fuelled day and live a similar experience to a racing driver. It includes five sets of passes, each for seven laps, so he will have plenty of opportunities to improve on his times. He will feel like a F1 driver, and he will see you like the one who got him there.

This can be over the top, but if you guys are close to getting back, this might be the little thing needed to bring him back to you. Hundred Reasons I Love You is a tin pail, six inches high with a 5.8 inch diameter full of scrolls where you can write amazing messages, as well as being able to write them on the bucket itself! Tell him things you never dared tell him while you were together, tell him what he means to you. The choice is you and that is what makes this gift extra special. For Rs.799 and some of your time you have the gift that might just make his mind up to get back with you.

Now, here is where things get tricky. These are gift ideas for an ex-boyfriend who you are in the joking about the past stage with. It takes time to get to that place, and these joke gift ideas will not be funny if you are not there yet. However, if you aim is to infuriate him, these ideas definitely will achieve that.

Even if you ex-partner doesn’t need it, it is funny. Penis jokes always have and always will form a part of male society, so showing him that you know this is both a symbol of you moving on, and that you still understand his sense of humour. The best there is, is by Carlton Spender, Penis Enlargement: The Ultimate Guide to Getting a Bigger Unit Naturally. It even has the word ultimate in the title, which is all you really need to believe that it is the best, but, it also describes it as a ‘unit’, which adds importance to his penis and pride. For Rs.1,894 for the paperback, it can be a bit of an expensive joke, but one he will always remember.

Why not ask him to relax in a polite and funny way? Then buy him Martin Meadows book, How to Relax: Stop Being Busy, Take a Break and Get Better Results Doing Less. Every man likes the idea of doing less, and getting more, that is fact. But here you are the winner, giving him a slight hint of the direction he should take his life allows you to have the last laugh. Whilst this book offers to teach him “how to step away from noise, relax and recharge your batteries so you have enough left in you to control your life” it will also give you two some distance so you can do some relaxing of your own. Buy the paperback for Rs.1,104 from Amazon.

T-shirts are a great way to show off a sense of humour. And the internet is full of awesome designs to suit all tastes. But we think the Llama Drama T-shirt is the ideal ex-boyfriend Tee. The slogan reads ‘This llama doesn’t want your drama’ which is a great symbol of a break up. To escape each other’s drama and chaos. Plus, you get to indirectly insult him and call him a llama. For Rs.499 it is a good joke gift for your ex-boyfriend.

You could always download this for free and put it on a USB for him, or add it to his Spotify favourites, but neither of those option would cut it for the joke. Because they are not a tangible object of the music itself. They are easily deleted, and he gets a free USB. The actual CD gives much more of an impression. Containing such great break up songs such as 'We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together' and 'I Knew You Were Trouble' plus all of the love songs by Swift, this album is a real reminder that you are moving on without him, and also ironically funny. So if you are going to go all out with this idea, why not go for the Deluxe edition, so he can hear every word very clearly? That is worth the Rs.495 price tag, surely?

Let him have some fun too. Give him a voodoo doll of yourself and let him unleash his fury on your stuffed cloth body. He may not believe it will work, but it does help release stress to inflict make believe pain on someone. So buy him a Voodoo Doll – Random Color that comes with pins included! All with colourful pinheads too. The colour of the doll is sent on random, depending on availability, but we am sure that it will not matter if you are a green doll or an orange one, the effect is the same. The aches and pains that can be inflicted range from ‘Head Ache’ to ‘Lose your Lover’ (one you hope he will not do, but know he will). A little help to get over you can’t be a bad thing, right? At Rs.1,737 it's a bit pricey for a gift that encourages someone to inflict imaginary pain on you, but if you feel he deserves to let out steam, this is the gift you need.

Here you can do the ultimate show of love. Or the ultimate act of revenge. The choice is yours…

This is the greatest show of wanting to get back you could show, so be cautious. Make sure you are in such a place that you can go together to such an event. Taking him to his favourite band, place, or adventure can be a good reason to finish with a sneak kiss (or more) and begin a new relationship together. Cater this day to him, he has to be the main focus, and that way you can get the reward of getting him back. Has he ever mentioned somewhere he has always wanted to go? Go there! Is favourite band are in town or nearby? Take him! He has always wanted to try sky diving? Book it for him! The idea behind this is to really spoil him so do just that.

He will hate this. That is a guarantee. It will make sure you never see or hear from him again. This is a huge act of revenge or a painful way to show you are over him. This is a gift only for certain circumstances, like if he is constantly trying to get back with you and you really don’t want to or if what he did was such a nasty act you really want to rub your happiness and his mistake in his face. Whichever your reason, this is a game over move.